Are you like me sometimes and overextend yourself more than you need or want to?
Are you having trouble managing between what you want and what others are asking from you?
Often we overestimate and extend ourselves more than we need to and then feel depleted from others. Earlier this month, I sent a newsletter out affirming that you matter, and you do. I hope you have told yourself you do matter and have created space in your life to matter. When we do this, it often doesn’t equate to or equal up to what others are giving us, it just adds to the love that you have been giving yourself. This is why it is important to give love to yourself first. I am a proactive person and believer of self care and self love. I am aware that no one can EVER out love you (except God). The love that you give yourself and the love that someone else gives you is different. Meaning, that relationship you are seeking, hoping for, or even praying for cannot ever out do the love you need to give to yourself.
Why, do I say this? often we give our love and extend ourselves to others with hopes we will get it back the same way. It rarely happens that way, right? think about it?
What happens is we set an expectation that the person should love us or treat us how we treat them. Yea, I think you are right. People should treat us the way we treat them but often, they don’t. And, we can’t make them either. Sometimes that expectancy of thinking that people should treat and love us a certain way often leave us disappointment. Which results in negative emotions and feelings. I know, I been there too!
“Expecting life to always turn out the way you want is guaranteed to lead to disappointment, because life will not always turn out the way you want it to. And when those unfulfilled expectations involve the failure of other people to behave the way you expect them to, the disappointment also involves resentment”
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Peace and Love always,
Ms. Ebony
